How to Make Sure Your Gay Sex Date Is Safe

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Gay Sex Culture

It may be changing in the last couple of years, or maybe the last decade, but the sexual culture among gay men still tends to be a bit blunt. Blunt, direct, and quick to action are terms that come to mind when thinking about the general way that two men have a sex date. Especially when meeting online it can be rough in communication and straightforward. Things like “Come over here now and I will give you a blow job” is a common way of interacting on gay sex chats.

And of course, that is completely fine, and can be quite exhilarating. To not make things too fluffy and go straight to the action, and the anonymous part can be really arousing as well. However, if you are a person that needs a bit more time to feel at ease with what you want, but also to feel at ease with the other person, the gay sex culture lacks some space for this. Many gay men have difficulties with sexuality because of the lack of empathy and sensitivity.

So if you want a gay sex date and you want it to be fast and anonymous and direct, you should definitely go for it. But if you need a bit more time during or before the date, it is perfectly fine to take the time and mention it to your date.

Meet Up In A Public Place

If you’re ready to go, and you just had a hot chat with somebody who lives nearby and is also ready for action, you probably just want to get over there as soon as possible and dive right into it. If you are a person that can be anxious about going to a stranger’s place, also because of safety, can be a good idea to meet up in a public place first. The gay sex culture in general can be anonymous and direct, but the drawback of this is that you are not sure who you are dealing with. You can check if there are coffee places near where the other person lives, and then suggest having a coffee first at that place.

Having a drink somewhere first can be a buzz kill however. You meet this person, you are not sure what you are going to talk about, in the match that you had on the sexual level might not be the match that you have while drinking coffee and chatting. So if you want to do this, be aware of that, and it might be a good idea to keep the tension alive by continuing your online conversation in real life. As far as that is possible in a coffee shop of course.

Build Trust And Verify The Person Online

To make even more sure that you know who you’re dealing with, you can build trust and verify the person online before meeting up in real life. Building trust helps you in the safety department, but also makes you feel at ease and relaxed when eventually meeting the person. It might also make your sexual encounter much better because your inhibitions could be lowered because you feel comfortable with this person. Because you shared already so much online.

You can share conversations online, exchange pictures and video chat, or play an online sex chat game. If you play Truth or Dare online with somebody you do assignments for each other that take a certain effort. So you know if the other person did this for you they are willing to make an effort, and the same goes for you when you make a picture for the other person. Another advantage of playing Truth or Dare online is that you can verify the other person, to make sure they are who they say they are. You could do this by personalizing your request by saying something like “Write my name on a piece of paper”, or “Draw a heart somewhere”. This way you know for sure that this person made this picture for you.

At Secret Dare we also have a review system where Dare pictures are reviewed by other members (blurred versions of the pictures) to make sure everybody is holding up their part of the deal. Because otherwise it could be that you went to a lot of trouble to fulfill your Dare, and then the other person just sent you a random picture, or a fake picture. By playing this game you build trust and you verify the person at the same time,

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